New Partner a Bad Kisser? How to Fix it
As wonderful as sex is, there’s nothing quite like a kiss. It can communicate passion and emotion like nothing else. And for most people, it’s a very important part of their physical relationship.
That expression starts to pale when your partner kisses badly. Unfortunately, kissing is one of those wait and see things; hard to predict. After all, no one puts “great person, bad kisser” on their internet dating profile.
Fortunately, bad kissing is not that difficult to fix! It’s likely that your sweetie has just never learned how to kiss properly. Thinking about dumping your sweetie because you don’t like their lip-lock technique (or the lack thereof)? No need, just keep reading for some subtle improvement techniques.
Where Bad Kissers Go Wrong
There are a couple mistakes that are most common with bad kissers. And by far the most noticeable and unpleasant of them is over-use of the tongue. Maybe because of movies they’ve watched or what their friends told them when they were kids, but some people think that French-kissing means two people doing battle with their tongues. And so when it comes time to smooch, they bring their weapon out full-force. But “let me stick my tongue down your throat” is just never going to be sexy.
What To Do
If the bad kisser is not someone you ever want to see again then go right ahead and point out their lack of technique. But if you do want to keep dating him or her, you probably don’t want to mention it out loud. Even talking gently won’t avoid any embarrassment on their part. So you’re going to have to take the lead without saying a word.
In order to be able to teach somebody to kiss better, you’ve first go to get them interested in the kiss in the first place. Then, when it’s obvious they’re into it, pull away slightly and force them to slow down. Don’t let them feel rejected. Simply change the pace in order to break up the monotony of the kiss and to help you introduce new elements.
Put away your light saber, Luke! If the person you’re kissing really seems to want to engage in a tongue-battle, you’ve got to be the first one to disengage your tongue. Instead, begin to focus on the lips, changing the pace and style of the kiss.
Once you’ve more or less called a truce in the battle of the tongues, you can start to show your partner more kissing options and elements. Try alternating top and bottom lips, or sucking the bottom lip lightly. Use different parts of the mouth to kiss: lips, tongue, teeth. If there’s any hope for him or her at all, your date will enjoy the new sensations of your kiss. Hopefully, seeing a little kissing creativity will light a bulb in your date’s head, and he or she will start to experiment as well.
Once your partner is comfortable trying these new techniques let him or her take over. With time they’ll discover the pleasure of varied kissing and their own creativity. And they won’t even realize they had help!
